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Manual of Self Defense

Evaluation of Conflicts in Self-Giving

Confidence Checklist for Priests

This form is meant to help you to evaluate your ability to appreciate your God-given gifts and their use in your ministry and personal life.  Please rate yourself by choosing the appropriate number on the scale below. 

0 - Never        1 - Very Little        2 - Moderately Often       3 - Very Often

Behaviors

avoid spending quiet time with the Lord
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
spends excessive time on projects because of insecurity
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
inadequate time in prayer life
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
lack of self-giving in friendships
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
distances others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
overly driven to prove oneself
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
preoccupied with appearance
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
lack of closeness to the Lord
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficult to please
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
workaholic
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
acts in an arrogant manner
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
does not treat the Lord as one’s best friend
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
overly competitive
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty in receiving from others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
excessive need for attention
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty in initiating responsibilities
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
substance abuse
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
compulsive sexual behaviors
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
isolates oneself
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
compulsive use of pornography
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
needs to be the center of attention
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
not a good team player
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
puts off important projects
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
treats others as though they were inferior
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
defer major decisions to the laity, not to brother priests
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
lack of close friendships
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
looks excessively for affirmation from others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
tries to control others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
divisive
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
liturgical irregularities secondary to need for attention
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
failure to support brother priests
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
unable to affirm others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
failure to work on friendships
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
compulsive masturbation
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often

Thinking

chronic thoughts of inadequacy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
sense of not measuring up
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
overly critical of oneself
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
obsessed with weaknesses
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
threatened by others’ gifts
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
perfectionistic
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
critical thinking about others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
preoccupied with insecurities about ministry/friendships
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
negative body image
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
inability to identify with strong, holy men
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
belief that one has little to offer others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
sense of being unworthy of being loved by God or people
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty seeing oneself as a strong and protective spiritual father
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
unable to think of oneself as a gifted spouse to the Church
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often

Communication

overly critical
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty in praising
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
unable to correct
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
overly quiet
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
unable to correct
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
criticize rectory staff/priests in front of others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
brag about hard work/accomplishments
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
fail to help others feel special
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
pressured, rapid speech
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
put others down to build oneself up
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
provoke/challenge others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
exaggerate accomplishments
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
unable to communicate the fullness of the Church’s teaching on sexual morality
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often

Emotional Life

difficulty in showing love and in receiving love
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
jealousy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
excessive anxiety
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
depression/sadness
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
overly dependent upon others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty in receiving love
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
strong anger
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
fear of correcting others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
social anxiety
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
feel of unworthy of being loved
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
a sense of being unworthy of being loved
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
mood swings
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
self-hatred
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
restlessness
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
loneliness
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficult in accepting praise
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
panic attacks
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
conflicts with shame
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
inappropriate guilt
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
lack of cheerfulness
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
excessive need for emotional support
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
performance anxiety
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
same sex attractions
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
fear of communicating the Church's teaching on sexual morality and faith
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often

Spiritual Life

restless in prayer
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty in receiving God’s love
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
little time for prayer
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
difficulty with mental prayer/meditation
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
lack of spiritual reading
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
avoidance of spiritual direction
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
avoidance of retreats
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
failure to pray the rosary
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
failure to have a spiritual director
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
lack of a spiritual plan for life
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
 
Total:

 


Origins of Weakness in Confidence

Childhood

  • Lack of affirmation or affection by a parent
  • Insecure parent(s)
  • Parental divorce or separation
  • Parental anger
  • Excessive quarreling between parents
  • ADHD
  • Poor body image
  • Sibling rejection
  • Modeling after an insecure parent
  • Disappointing academic performance
  • Sense of disappointing others
  • Poor athletic abilities secondary lack of eye-hand coordination which is necessary for baseball, basketball, football, soccer
  • Few friends
  • Lack of faith
  • Anger in teachers, culture, and media against western civilization, the teachings of the Church and masculinity

Adult Life

  • Unresolved childhood conflicts
  • Lack of faith in parishoners/the culture
  • Excessive concern about what others think
  • Critical, unaffirming or angry priests/superiors
  • Inability to surrender responsibilities of ministry
  • Lack of balance
  • Failure to work on friendships
  • Financial, ministerial worries
  • Rejection in important relationships
  • Pressure from controlling and critical people
  • Poor body image
  • Family rejection
  • Hurts in seminary training
  • Lack of faith
  • Lack of trust
  • Cultural, educational, political anger against Judeo-Christian morality, western civilization and masculinity
  • Media bias against the Church
  • Difficulty in correcting others

Total:

Copyright © 2006 Confidence Checklist, R. P. Fitzgibbons, M.D.

Our mission is to strengthen Catholic marriages and families by educating spouses, marital therapists and clergy about common causes of conflicts in marital self-giving and effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. 

Our mission is to strengthen families by educating parents about common causes of emotional and behavioral conflicts in children and by providing effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. 

Dr. Fitzgibbons has coauthored the second edition of a textbook on the treatment on excessive anger in adult and child psychiatric disorders in the field of positive psychology for American Psychological Association Books, Forgiveness Therapy: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope.