Evaluation of Accusations Against Priests and Religious

We have extensive experience in evaluating accusations against priests, causes of false accusations and in assisting priests in addressing conflicts in those to whom they minister.

The Justice for Priests new publication to help accused priests is an excellent resource.

Manual of Self Defense

Evaluation of Conflicts in Self-Giving

Post Abortion Anger, Mistrust, Sadness and Forgiveness

Post abortion sadness, anger, mistrust and guilt are psychological conflicts that spouses present in the course of marital therapy.  Not infrequently, a wife harbors strong anger at her husband for her feeling that he pressured her into obtaining the abortion.  In many of these marriages, although the husband has admitted that he made a terrible mistake and previously asked for forgiveness.  The periodic intense anger that emerges in the wives is due to their need to understand the work of forgiveness for abortion trauma needs to go on for many years, if not for the entire life of the marriage.  Also, spouses come to understand that their intermittent deep sadness/loneliness for the unborn child gives rise to their feeling of being betrayed and their anger.  Then, continuing to engage in past forgiveness decisions diminishes both the sadness and the associated anger.
 
In addition, since wives tend to experience symptoms of a posttraumatic stress disorder with painful memories more than does the husband usually, marital communication about the recurrent pain is indicated and usually helpful in protecting martial trust.  Also, spouses report being greatly helped by taking the post abortion pain into sacrament of reconciliation when it emerges.  Also, participation in a post abortion healing programs, such as Project Rachel, has also helped many spouses find healing.
 
In some marriages with high levels of quarreling, post abortion mistrust, sadness and anger are often unconscious and, subsequently, spouses have no awareness that it may be a factor in their marital stress.  After a priest related to me that he always asks couples who come to him for counseling because of excessive anger in each, if there was an abortion in their past.  He told me that the answer to his probing question was often yes.  Then, I began to ask this question of couples with similar conflicts. 
 
I will never forget the first time that I posed this question to a husband, who was in the office without his wife.  He was profoundly discouraged about their marriage and was exhausted by the degree of marital anger and mistrust.  He responded by raising two fingers and bowing his head.  Shortly thereafter, he wrote a long letter to his wife in which he explained his belief that the two abortions in their past had severely harmed each of them, their marriage and was ongoing source of hidden conflict in their relationship.  He ended his letter by asking for forgiveness for his role in the abortions and by recommending that each of them go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation for healing.

Our mission is to strengthen Catholic marriages and families by educating spouses, marital therapists and clergy about common causes of conflicts in marital self-giving and effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. 

Our mission is to strengthen families by educating parents about common causes of emotional and behavioral conflicts in children and by providing effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. 

Dr. Fitzgibbons has coauthored the second edition of a textbook on the treatment on excessive anger in adult and child psychiatric disorders in the field of positive psychology for American Psychological Association Books, Forgiveness Therapy: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope.