Evaluation of Accusations Against Priests and Religious

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Manual of Self Defense

Evaluation of Conflicts in Self-Giving

Selfishness Checklist

Please answer by identifying the appropriate number using this scale for each item on the following selfishness checklist which applies to you.

0 - Never        1 - Very Little        2 - Moderately Often       3 - Very Often

Grandiose thinking
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Needs attention at the liturgy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Insensitive to others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Excessive desire to please others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Excessively angry when everything doesn’t go as one wants
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Unwilling to teach the truth on sexual morality
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Exaggerated sense of self importance
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Strong sense of entitlement
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Expects automatic compliance with his or her expectations
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Celebrates the liturgy as he wishes
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Manipulative
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Uses others to obtain one’s ends
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Overly critical of others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Doesn’t preach against the contraceptive mentality
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Lacks empathy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Unwilling to identify with the feelings and needs of others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Acts emotionally immature
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Always demands to have one’s own way
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Talks about oneself excessively
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Fails to attend to the needs of others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Critical of strong men
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Is often envious of others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Believes that others are always jealous of him
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Preoccupied with one’s appearance
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Tends to avoid responsibility in some major area of life
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Lacks empathy for others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Difficulty in being faithful to the Church
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Lazy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Fails to care about important matters
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Substance abuse
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Sexual acting-out
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Acts helpless to get one’s way
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Fails to warn parishoners of the dangers of the sexual utilitarian philosophy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Clings to the sick role
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Uncomfortable with men and women who are faithful and loyal to the Church
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Blames others for failures or shortcomings
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Permissive leadership style with unwillingness to correct
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Doesn’t enjoy giving
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Seeks to be center of attention
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Financially irresponsible
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Rarely preaches on protecting unborn children
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Tries to turn all conversations upon oneself
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Plays excessively to avoid responsibility
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Refuses to clean up after oneself
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Difficulty supporting the sacrament of marriage
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Eats excessively
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Lives outside the rectory more than 2 nights per week
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Always portrays oneself as the victim
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Intense anger
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
When something goes wrong it’s always someone else’s fault
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Requires excessive admiration
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Exaggerates physical and emotional symptoms as a way to control
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Lacks genuine interest in others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Takes many vacations
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Uses others sexually
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Very controlling
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Expects oneself to be perfect
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Sloppy
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Place a large picture of oneself on parish website
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Tends to seek power or influence over others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Refuses to clean up after oneself
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Lacks temperance
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Reacts to criticism with resentment
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Financially irresponsible
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Unwilling to express appreciation to others
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
Only wants the best things in life
Never Very Little Moderately Very Often
 
Selfishness Total:

 

A score below 30 indicates a low level selfishness; a score of 30 to 60, a moderate level of selfishness and above 60 a high level of selfishness.

Selfishness Checklist  © copyright 2003 Richard P. Fitzgibbons

 

3 Types of Selfishness:

1. Grandiose/malignant type - characterized by seething anger, manipulativeness, pursuit of interpersonal control and power, exaggerated self-importance, feelings of privilege, few underlying feelings of inadequacy, little psychological insight or remorse, and a tendency to blame others.

2. Fragile type -  characterized by defensive grandiosity to deflect painful feelings of smallness, anxiety, and loneliness; longings to feel important and privileged; and strong undercurrents of negative affect and feelings of inadequacy, often accompanied by rage, when narcissistic defenses fail.

3. High-functioning/exhibitionistic type - characterized by exaggerated self-importance; articulateness, energy, and sociability; good adaptive functioning; and use of narcissism to help him or her succeed.

Russ E et al. Refining the construct of narcissistic personality disorder: Diagnostic criteria and subtypes.  Am J Psychiatry 2008 Nov; 165:1473.

 

Our mission is to strengthen Catholic marriages and families by educating spouses, marital therapists and clergy about common causes of conflicts in marital self-giving and effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. 

Our mission is to strengthen families by educating parents about common causes of emotional and behavioral conflicts in children and by providing effective approaches to alleviating such conflicts. 

Dr. Fitzgibbons has coauthored the second edition of a textbook on the treatment on excessive anger in adult and child psychiatric disorders in the field of positive psychology for American Psychological Association Books, Forgiveness Therapy: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope.